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Still can't fathom deleting my Reddit account, even though I was always much more of a lurker. I was quicker with Twitter --> Mastodon. Deleted everything as soon as the shit started hitting the fan and didn't look back. I'm sold on Lemmy, though. I'm getting a whole lot of what I was getting there around these parts, and it seems to be a wee bit more friendly for the kind of people me likey.
I feel like I'm getting more. Quality over quantity and really I didn't realize how I missed the community aspect that I used to participate in back in the early 2000 when I first started meeting people online and using forums and making my own web pages and using chat services. I wasn't interacting with anyone on reddit as I had experienced plenty of hostile interactions as well as pointless harassment. I used to be very friendly and helpful but this kind of stuff made me cynical and negative. I would comment on something, provided my insight or info or link or whatever to something and moved on. Didn't look for replies because I knew there were going to be people butthurt I didn't agree with such bigoted or racist or sexist or whatever comment or belief so there was no point in arguing with these people. I turned off notifications. I don't feel defensive here. I don't feel desensitized nor do I have my defenses up. I check my notifications knowing it's either a useful reply or a silly joke, so far lol. I'm definitely sticking around. Reddit is off the table.
I thought it was just my social anxiety flaring up when I had new notifications. I never really thought about the fact that I was also avoiding negative replies. It'll be interesting to see how this goes here.
I can get too involved in an argument when someone gets hostile with me and it's not only a waste of time but it puts me in a bad mood. I need to save my patience and mood for work lol. I think my negative association with notifications is gone, and so far I've had genuinely good interactions so crossing fingers we don't attract negative attention hahaha!