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Please help me understand the needs of those experiencing an unplanned pregnancy (lemmy.ml)

submitted 4 months ago by [email protected] to c/women

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For a long time I have not felt belonging to either the Pro Choice or Pro Life groups and recently came across ProGrace which sets politics aside to focus on aiding the woman and meeting her needs directly both during and after her pregnancy regardless as to how she decides to proceed. This got my attention and I have since taken their training course, listened to their podcast and started some of their recommended reading to further my understanding.

In full disclosure I am a white christian male in the southeastern USA who has experienced two unplanned pregnancies myself and after learning of how terribly the church has handled their support of women, especially around unplanned pregnancy, I am looking to work with my wife to educate those within our sphere of influence to address this.

However, as mentioned above, I am a male and so naturally my experience around the issue simply does not compare to the depth of emotion and trauma that a woman would experience and so I am hoping to learn from those here who are or have experienced an unplanned pregnancy to better understand what support is needed to bring women through the traumas associated, overcome the fear and shame around the issue, and just generally help in any way I can.

I know this is a sensitive topic and so I would not ask for sharing directly in the comments here. Rather I am hoping to chat directly whether via Signal, email, etc. or even a quick call for those comfortable with that (can use Jitsi, Signal or another private voice chat to avoid needing to share any personal details). I would like to simply listen to your experience; I will not debate, judge, etc. as my goal is entirely to learn.

Thank you for taking the time to read and consider.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 months ago (1 children)

I would say that prohibition of local abortion healthcare is not the answer regardless as to what other options are available.

Since writing the OP I've found a local pregnancy center that offers services in alignment with the above that is in need of male volunteers. I'll have my orientation next week and hope to be of help there.

[–] makeitso 1 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Good luck to you, I hope you are able to help people and certainly respect your desire to do so.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 months ago

Thank you and thank you also for the conversation