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Do you struggle to keep your house tidy? (self.asklemmy)

submitted 1 year ago by Lateralking to c/[email protected]

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I feel like my house is constantly a fucking mess. My wife and I work 80 hours between us and we have a 2 year old and I feel like it's constantly a mess.

We do what we can and often spend a couple hours on a weekend tidying but it's a losing battle.

How do you cope/keep on top of things?

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[–] uhauljoe 9 points 1 year ago

Yes. I have a husband and a 16 year old autistic son (unfortunately he is very low functioning and does not really help with any chores because of that, despite his age).

My husband works 5 to 6 days a week, usually 12 hour shifts, sometimes if there's a 6th day it's 8 hours. I work 8-5, 5 days a week, but also have about a 45 minute commute one way.

Husband also has a large family and we have a pool, so right now at least one weekend day is usually spent hosting them for swimming.

My best strategy right now is that if I walk by something that needs doing and will take a few minutes or less to complete (think throwing away some trash, tidying the coffee table, grabbing all the dishes in the room and moving them to the sink), then I do it right then. It's not perfect and it doesn't take care of everything, but I'm hoping if I do it more, I'll be able to sort of stack things and do two things at once that need doing and then cleaning will become part of my routine.

But honestly I'm mostly here to get tips because my ADHD brain needs help.