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[–] BonesOfTheMoon 26 points 7 months ago (25 children)

Probably 500+ bottles of expensive wine, more possibly even. Some of it was free, but most not, and it's all crammed into a 2 bedroom apartment turning to vinegar because it's improperly stored. Sometimes life circumstances mean you can't drink much anymore. So it's pretty much a waste and hugely embarrassing.

Never tie your finances to that of a crazy liar.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (18 children)

Never tie your finances to that of a crazy liar.

I'm invested and would like to read the rest of the story..

[–] BonesOfTheMoon 11 points 7 months ago (17 children)

In a nutshell I married a person who has destroyed me financially a few times over, and I cannot leave because I don't have the money. He's sort of like a narcissist (like in that vein, not fully but definitely very mentally disturbed), and he decided to get into wine and buy massive quantities simply to make me angry and ruin my life out of spite, after he destroyed my mental health. We had storage space for it at the previous house but got evicted by a landlord who took it back for his family member, and now I live crammed into a two bedroom apartment with 78 boxes of wine that I seldom if ever drink. He ensures he gets everything he wants in life, even when I was down to owning 3 pairs of pants.

It's incredibly sad and depressing and I can do virtually nothing about it but drag myself between both jobs, spending zero dollars save for my survey money, while he sits on the couch watching hockey 3 hours a night. I have no support and no way out but praying I somehow find time and a plan to make my own business and make enough money to dig out and find somewhere to hide from him.

If you have a red flag in a relationship, run. Not worth it.

[–] TenderfootGungi 5 points 7 months ago

There are ways out. Find a women’s shelter. Just go.

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