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I just wonder if it actually did get worse or it just seems like that because as an adult you have a lot more on your plate than you did when you were a kid/teen

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[โ€“] alchemist2023 22 points 6 months ago (6 children)

I'm 50 and I have my ADHD assessment in a month. I'm in software too similar to OP. for me the impulsiveness has gotten worse where i react with deregulated emotional outbursts that are affecting me and my family. I've got a bunch of processes to handle a lot of the symptoms but impulsiveness was never something I noticed I had until recently. I've always known i don't have much of a filter, blurting out whatever is forefront in my head. I've asked a number of my medicated friends and I'm told the medication does help with the emotional impulsiveness, providing the time to filter. but it does feel weird doing this at 50 ๐Ÿคฏ

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (2 children)

Never too late to improve - you've still got lots of time to enjoy the benefits!

Have you considered therapy as well? I don't come down hard one way or another on therapy vs medication, but imo talking to a therapist about these sorts of things can be very helpful - especially when dealing with the more "emotional" side of things. Even just knowing how to identify certain emotional patterns or feelings can make a world of difference.

(Obviously you don't have to answer that - feel free to consider my question rhetorical!)

[โ€“] alchemist2023 1 points 6 months ago (1 children)

yeah I'm also starting counselling really just to talk around the issues and to get a sense of understanding of them. i concur, meds are one part of the solution. self awareness through study and conversation are another significant part. however I'm stuck on how to interrupt impulsiveness when it's the impulsiveness that comes before the interrupt, if you get what I'm saying.. so i think i need to slow the machine down, give it time to interrupt myself ๐Ÿคช

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago

Absolutely -- It sounds like you've got this handled - I'm rooting for you!!

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