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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/KitchenNo7706 on 2023-06-26 20:13:32+00:00.
The person in question is my best friend's wife. I'm 30m and my wife is 28f. We just welcomed our perfect baby girl in to this world 3 weeks ago. My buddy and his wife welcomed their perfect boy in to the world last week. We haven't seen my buddy or his wife since we had our daughter but yesterday we were invited down to their place to hang out.
Now.. my wife was an absolute champ during delivery. I think she put up a good front for me, as I was admittedly not much of a support system because I let my panic get the best of me. But she was joking the whole time through pushes, despite silently crying. She kept saying encouraging things to me (as if I was the one going through it. Ie: "you're going to be such a good dad", "she's going to be so beautiful", "I can't wait for you to see her", "I hope she has your eyes"). She was sweet as pie to everyone. She just handled it so fucking well considering and I'm so amazed by the woman she is and her ability to remain so calm in that situation. Now my buddy and his wife asked how the delivery was so I did gush over my wife and how absolutely awesome she was and how included she made me feel, etc.
I guess I should have known something wasn't right because I did notice my buddy start laughing and his wife was silent. When I finally caught on and had my "oh shit" moment, I asked what was wrong and my buddy goes "she basically bit my head off. She was screaming at the doctors, told me I was a POS, said my son better not look like me after everything she's gone through" etc, etc. I guess she just had a rough one, which is totally fine! But me gushing over my wife and how well she handled things thoroughly pissed off my buddies wife. We left later and my wife gets a text from the other wife saying "pretty bold of your husband to basically shit talk my experience by talking about how great you did. That was fucking embarrassing." Now I feel bad, I guess.. for essentially not reading the room. My wife told me not to worry about it but my buddy did say it started a fight.