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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/joshg1838 on 2023-06-25 19:22:06+00:00.
I (20m) work for a small business where there’s probably 15 or so of us. My boss and I get along great and sometimes hang out outside of work along with a couple other coworkers. Last year we had a company picnic at our local amusement park/picnic area. We had a good time but in the middle of it everyone, my boss included, wanted me to start getting on amusement park rides with them. I told them (and told them once before we even went), that I don’t do rides but I’ll hang out while they go, no big deal. They pressured and badgered me for a couple minutes with ‘oh come on, don’t be a whimp, have a little fun.’ Even though I knew better, I got sick of it and was finally like ‘okay fine, I’ll do it.’
We get on this stand-up spinning type deal, everyone is having a great time and I’m 100% going to puke. After a bit of self-talk I get through it, we get off and I make it about five feet before I fucking lost it. Meanwhile while I proceeded to projectile vomit, my boss and my coworker snapped a photo of me and were laughing their asses off, even sent the photo to someone who wasn’t there to be like ‘ha, you’re totally missing this!’ At that point I’m irritated because I didn’t want to do it in the first place and I know I shouldn’t have, I don’t feel well and now I have the people I thought were cool with me kind of being assholes (who then also posted this photo online which wasn’t cool.)
At the same time it wasn’t the end of the world so I got over it quickly, life moved on and it was forgotten. The year went by and last week, my boss announced that yet again we were going to have the same event at the same place. He looked over and made a joke about ‘you think you’ll be able to handle it this time?’, while nudging me in the arm. I decided to tell him I wasn’t going because it wasn’t really for me and I didn’t want to bring down the vibe. Not much was said until the morning of, where my boss texted me ‘where are you?’ I let him know that I again didn’t want to attend this year because of what happened last year, and I felt no one wanted to respect my boundaries. He has been upset since then and hasn’t said much, and I don’t know if maybe i was too sensitive about it.
I would have been perfectly fine going and tagging along without the rides but since they didn’t want to take no for an answer last year, I didn’t want to feel uncomfortable about it this year and repeat it all over again. AITA for declining the invite?