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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Ok-Quote-274 on 2023-06-24 23:44:43+00:00.
For context, my husband and I trade off days on the weekend to sleep in. He gets Saturday, I get Sunday.
Lately however, I have been beyond extremely exhausted. I'm pregnant with our third and deal with hypothyroidism. Our second is going through a sleep regression and consistently wakes up in the night, something my husband never handles (which is fine). I have had to pick up a part time data entry job to help make ends meet, but we don't have the money for childcare. So during naps, down time, after bedtime I have been working. He has started coming home complaining the house is a mess or dinner isn't ready, which I try to let roll off my shoulders. This is a new season we are both in after all. But it wears on me emotionally. I have expressed how tired I am and how I am in need of a little extra support. He gets frustrated and tells me he's just as tired. Hes had to pick up overtime and is feeling stress from that. Usually however that's where the conversation ends and I walk away feeling dismissed. This past week was particularly rough. I felt I was at a breaking point and just needed some rest. As we were driving home from somewhere I told my husband that I know Saturday he sleeps in, but I seriously just needed a weekend where I could catch up on sleep. He launches into a fight about how its not fair and he's tired too. He said I could sleep in if he could take a couple of naps on Saturday and Sunday. I told him sleeping in wasn't helpful if it meant I had to go solo on the weekend while he took two naps both days. He told me that's how relationships work and he's offering support but I have to be fair. I told him nevermind. I'll just get up. He responded that that was my problem and launches into a yelling tailspin on how i need to learn to be fair and no one said I couldn't sleep. I just need to let him nap. I'm the one making things worse. This is my own hole I'm digging On and on and on. To which I, at this point completely spent, pulled the car over and told him to find somewhere for the night, and then drove home. I felt in that moment being alone with the kids was better than being around someone but feeling alone. So, aita?
Edit to add
1.He is normally a very difficult person, which is made worse by our crazy busy schedule.
- I do normally handle all that comes with running a household. Before I added in a pregnancy and work it was important to me that he came home and had nothing on his plate except focusing on the kids. I obviously am not superwoman though and I don't think he's recognized that things on my end have changed. Maybe that's making him a tad bit irritated.