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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/ObsessedMurderino on 2023-06-24 07:42:29+00:00.
My (f35) birthday was a week ago. Since I work a lot right now I didn't plan anything, thinking I could invite some friends and families out for a simple lunch picknick or something later.
When I got home from work on Friday afternoon, I was surprised with a small gathering. Some of my friends had planned and cooked for a BBQ in my small garden. It was absolutely lovely. Food was delicious, drinks lovely and cute (non alcoholic cause I don't drink) and they decorated my place and garden, cat themed. Even my grumpy old cat had a little bowtie. Love cats!
Anyhow, night was amazing and they all left happy. The morning after I began work at 6.30 and only plowed through the mess left behind, thinking they be in contact later about the cleaning since it was "their" party.
I'm currently saving up for a car and so I'm working two jobs om the weekends and sometimes the rest of the week too. At 14.30 I got home to change my clothes, eat something and rush away to job number two. Nobody had still not contacted me about cleaning and my house was still a mess with piling dishes, trash and furniture needing to be moved back. Still thinking they would help, I sent a text asking which time they planned on coming by to help with the clean up. I would be home about eight.
Didn't get answers except from one saying she was working today and tomorrow.
My Sunday looks the same and since I didn't get an answer I sent another text asking for help with the clean up, adding I'll work ten hours on both Monday and Tuesday, so this evening would be easiest if they're busy with work on those days.
Got some answers about how they didn't have time right now, they needed to rest for the work week, didn't have babysitter's and they wasn't involved in the planing. This really made me upset. I didn't ask for a party, I specifically told them that I didn't have time for a party at the moment, but now I'm stuck with cleaning up after a party.
Soo on Sunday evening after work at eight, I texted again, asking who wanted to come over to help. Not a single soul answered. The dishes had began to smell at this point so I didn't want to leave it any longer. I don't have a dishwasher and the cleanup took forever. When done after a few hours I sent a text. I know I was a bit snarky, I essentially texted "I've cleaned everything by my self, no need for you guys to come over and help." I'm aware I'm the asshole for that text but I was exhausted and just wanted to sleep.
On Monday my phone blew up with upset texts on how they planned to help me, that I could have wait, that I wasn't fair and that I'm to pushy needing to have everything done at my place and way.
I'm shocked. I didn't know my "friends" thought of me like that. I have no interest in seeing them right now but I'm thinking I light be the asshole. Maybe cleanup isn't something you asks about after a part?
So, reddit. AITA?