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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/No-Yam-4047 on 2023-06-23 17:23:29+00:00.
28f. My BIL (husband's brother), his wife and their 15yo daughter needed somewhere to stay after they lost their jobs and housing (they owned a business, it liquidated). We opened our doors to them and gave them my guest room and their daughter sleeps in my "she-shed" (has AC, internet, cable, bathroom, bed, etc). They've been here for going on 2 months. BIL and his wife both have jobs now and are starting to save. We have no problem helping them out. That was never an issue. But going on 2 months without having access to my entire house was bothering me a bit and my husband and I asked them yesterday to check in to a hotel for the night so we could have alone time.
Well, they left at around 4ish and said they already booked the hotel and that they arranged for their daughter to go to a friend's house. Around 11pm my husband and I were having some drinks and enjoying our alone time in the living room watching a movie and things got a bit spicy. One thing led to another, etc etc. Well, in the heat of the moment we absolutely did not hear the front door open (which we had locked) and in walks out niece, who screams, calls us disgusting and runs out.
My husband calls BIL and he's pissed because this shouldn't have happened. We told them to leave, they said they arranged everything and we locked the door (the kid didn't have a key). Well, turns out that our nieces plans fell through with her friend and her parents, instead of having her stay at the hotel with them, told her she could just come back home and gave her the house key. As I said, her "room" is my she-shed. In the backyard. She didn't need to come inside for anything. But here we are regardless. We asked why they would send their kid back here after we asked everyone to leave and they said they wanted their own alone time as well and thought it wouldn't be an issue. My husband is utterly mortified and embarrassed. I told him they needed to leave. My husband doesn't even feel comfortable walking around the house anymore because of their overstep and lack of boundaries. My BIL says I'm an AH because they "barely have enough" for a down payment. AITA?
ETA: if this situation was left alone and comments weren't being made, I wouldn't make them leave. But our niece makes a point to mention it all the time and tell my husband how disgusting he is and therefore, he no longer feels comfortable in his own home. Hence, why they need to leave.