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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/TryingToBeOfHelp on 2023-06-23 11:36:47+00:00.
My son (8) is autistic. He has two half-siblings through his dad. The oldest, a girl (3) has a lot of the same signs my son did at three. She hasn't spoken yet, and she doesn't like to look at people. She hates loud noises, and she clings to a few specific objects.
I told my ex, when picking up my son, I said he might consider getting her tested. We didn't find out about our son until he started school, but it would have been easier to know in advance. My ex was very offended and told me not to talk about his kids (with his new wife) and to stay out of their affairs. I asked him why he was so upset, and he said it was because I was trying to interfere in something that was none of his business.
I told him I was just trying to be helpful, but I wouldn't bring it up again. I left. I hadn't expected him to have such a negative reaction. Am I the asshole?