Am I the Asshole?

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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/MGeeeeeezy on 2023-06-23 01:30:27+00:00.

Every day after work, my girlfriend of 9 years will tell me every detail of her day as a resource teacher for at least half an hour. These are not 2-way conversations, more so her telling me about what some kid did or what a coworker said.

I also have a hard time paying attention the entire time when she’s telling these stories because they’re so long. Lately she’s been calling me out for forgetting her students/colleagues names and says I make her feel nervous when she tells stories because I seem annoyed.

If I’m being honest, I do get annoyed. She’s not a great story yelled, provides lots of superfluous detail, and doesn’t engage me at all. Just pretty much talks at me. So today I told her that I feel like she’s having 1-way conversations with me and that she spends too long on her stories. I said that I like to hear about her day but just not for so long and that I’d rather us talk about things we can both contribute to.

As expected, she did not take this well and said she won’t tell me any more work stories. She’s obviously pissed and I feel guilty. AITA?