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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Plz_Can_You_Not on 2023-06-23 11:27:16+00:00.
I’ve been dating A for a few months now and things are going well, he puts effort into our relationship and I can see how he seems me as a priority.
We live two hours away from each other and today he is coming up to see me for my birthday celebrations this weekend.
He originally said he would arrive at my house between 12-1pm. However, this morning he updated it to 2pm because he wanted to relax a bit before coming. I was fine with that because he gave me ample notice.
However, he has just said that he will be arriving at 3pm which is 2 hours after the original agreed time.
If this was a one time thing then I would be fine but it has happened continuously over the past four weeks which every time we see each other he has been 30 mins or more late.
Last weekend I told him it upset me because it makes me feel like a sitting duck whilst I wait around for him. He got upset that I didn’t see the wider picture of him coming to see me and putting the effort into driving for 2 hours.
The thing is, I do the same for him and the only time I am late is due to traffic and even then I set off early to factor that in.
Edit: I go to see him the equal amount of times he comes to see me and we had plans for this afternoon which now have to change because he is late.
AITA for not being very appreciative of him coming to see me and instead being annoyed because he is always late?