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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/TechnicalReview99 on 2023-06-23 05:30:05+00:00.
My dad had a baby with his girlfriend when he was 50. His girlfriend wasn't stable so my dad pretty much raised my brother by himself. My brother is now 7. Ironically my son is also 7.
I found it weird and odd and tried to accept it. My dad is 57 and is more of a sitter than a parent because he doesn't have the energy that I have as a 32yo. So my brother spends a lot of time with my family. I have always had a very complicated relationship with my dad.
My dad had a health scare and he told me that if something were to happen to him then he'd want my brother to go with me. I sarcastically said my brother is pretty much with me anyways. He said it's not his fault that he had a heart attack and I said maybe not but you had zero business having a kid at fucking 50 and it's like your winging it.
He said he wasn't "winging" anything and I said no you're just can't keep up and the whole situation is fucked up. We've barely spoken since that conversation last month.
I absolutely refuse to apologize to him. It hasn't affected the care of my brother. Me and my wife probably care for him 60% of the time. He and my son are inseparable so that helps.