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So I am a part of the LGBTQ community and work in a big city in middle europe. A lot of my coworkers are religios and have a foreign background. They are mostly very nationalist and homo-/transphobic. I hate them for their blind hate and bigotry, which wont change. I have realised, that I have become a bit bigotred towards people like them in the last few months, which is, even tho my biases often revealed to be true, just unfair to them. How could I stop that?

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[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Do not associate people's behaviors with their race. I am from the middle east myself, and I am pro-LGBT. A lot of middle Eastern immigrants are anti LGBT, but not all of us. There are also many Europeans and white people who are homophobic, so the reverse isn't true either.

And just remember that homophobia as it exists today was exported by European colonial powers. While Muslim regions were never particularly excited or warmly welcomed LGBT, they tended to leave them be and treated them normally for the most part. It was not a societal issue worth considering. Modern homophobia was introduced by the west, and while Europe has seen great improvements there, the Middle east and third world is sadly behind on all fronts. Our wars and lack of education keep us more ignorant.

Last thing I'd add is that I notice middle Eastern immigrants to be more homophobic than the ones at home. I suppose it's their reaction to going to LGBT friendly places and thinking it's a conspiracy theory. I only say this to say that it is not as bad at home.

[โ€“] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago

People tend to sweat when they need something. So your next step is to create a necessity.

[โ€“] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Welcome to the dark side. Turns out when you import cheap labor, you get their culture with them, its a package deal.

[โ€“] applejacks 1 points 1 year ago

they will never understand this.

"wtf, we imported millions of people from countries with incompatible cultures, and now they're not behaving like we want them to!"

[โ€“] tallwookie -1 points 1 year ago

get new friends or develop thicker skin,

[โ€“] luckyhunter -4 points 1 year ago

It's a modified Mad Men meme. Michael "I feel bad for you." Don Draper "I don't think about you at all."

You hate them for what you think they are thinking about you. When in all reality they probably don't think about you at all.

Unless they've directly attacked you or bullied or directed slurs at you, but that's usually just 1 or 2 assholes, not a whole company of people.

[โ€“] [email protected] -4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It's impossible to be bigoted against bigots.

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[โ€“] [email protected] -5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Its human nature to be racist look at our history. We made african americans do slavery before lincoln was in office. We still haven't gotten over the whole racism as its still around on the internet no matter where you look could be jokes could be crimes it is just there. We as humans want to be more powerful than other humans hence the racism and bullying. However there will always be people who are against racism which happen to be the correct minded people. To be honest my brother makes racist jokes all the time but limits it to our private discord.

The best thing to do is to hold in your thoughts dont be mean to people is all I have to say.

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