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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Ok_Payment_6843 on 2023-06-22 14:00:30+00:00.
My oldest son Jax 16M practically grew up with his bestfriend Nate also 16M. My wife was close college friends with his mom and he's been around so much that he was basically like a third son and like another brother to my boys. Now Nates have always been a bit more old fashioned for my taste but I didn't know by how much until Nate came out almost 3 yrs ago and they kicked him out.
To say we were shocked was an understatement and of course we let him stay with us while we tried to talk to his parents and while his mom seemed liked she'd take him home his dad wouldn't have it and they let us take him. We became his legal gaurdians overnight pretty much. After about year of nc/lc Nates mom started going to pflag meetings then started getting his dad to go.. Nate are in a much better place then they were but Nate still didnt want to go home. His Dad recently found out he might have cancer and now his parents really want to reconcile with him and maybe move back in.
They asked me to talk to him about it. Now this maybe a little selfish, but Nates kinda bloomed with us , his grades are up, the boys especially Jax love having him round and he even got a boyfriend. Me and the wife love him we'd hate to see him go so last Friday I talked to him about it but I told him I wasn't going to make him reconcile or move back in with them. He told he didn't want to and I relayed that to them which they didn't take well. His dad in particular accused me of not trying hard enough and me stealing their kid. I told them I wasn't going to force Nate to go back with them just because he might be sick and now only really wants to make up for it. They just told me to go screw myself. AITA?