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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Cute-Opening2366 on 2023-06-21 09:46:23+00:00.
I (32F) and my sister (28F) have always had a strained relationship due to our differing personalities and values. While I'm more frugal and focused on saving money, my sister has always been the opposite, enjoying a lavish lifestyle and spending money without much thought. Recently, my sister got engaged to her boyfriend of only six months and immediately started planning an extravagant wedding.
When my sister announced her wedding plans, she mentioned that she expected our immediate family to contribute financially to cover the expenses. She assumed we would be willing to support her extravagant dream wedding without any hesitation. This came as a shock to me, as she had always been aware of my more practical and money-conscious approach to life.
I politely declined her request, explaining that I had been saving for my own future goals (buying a bigger apartement my future children with my husband), and that I didn't feel comfortable using my hard-earned money for an event that seemed excessive and unnecessary, especially considering the short duration of their relationship. I suggested they consider a more modest celebration that would still be meaningful without breaking the bank.
My sister was furious and accused me of being selfish, unsupportive, and jealous of her happiness. She argued that as her sister, I should be willing to make sacrifices for her big day, regardless of the cost or my personal feelings. This led to a heated argument, causing tension within our family.
Despite this, I am standing my ground and refused to fund her extravagant wedding. Our parents are sided with my sister, suggesting I reconsider my decision to maintain family harmony.