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Current dads who grew up with terrible fathers of their own - how have you done things differently? (self.Daddit)
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Hey Daddit

I'm about to be the father in just a couple more months. My own father, mostly absent, was a raging alcoholic who, in recent years, has made the switch to meth. I have absolutely no concept of being a good dad outside of TV and short interactions with a few of my friends' dad's (though, to be honest, most of my friends have shit fathers as well).

So I'll outsource the question - when do you feel like you're doing better than your own parents? Is it hard when you don't have a good blueprint? Any advice?

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[โ€“] S_204 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm here. I didn't have an example, so I'm trying to learn what I can from others but I'm here and I'm not going anywhere.

[โ€“] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

I'm sure you'll be fine. My therapist actually showed me what a great template I had. It sucked to live through and I don't speak to my folks, but "literally doing everything different" is a super viable plan that freaking works man. I was at the library with my 8 year old the other day thinking "damn, I never once went to a public library. Sure honey, get another 5 books. Comic books too."