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I feel that I should preface this by warning questioning people that looking for signs is generally not a good way to find out if you're trans. Different people experience being trans in different ways.

Thank you lady_scarecrow for the above disclaimer. Very good advice ❤️

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 7 months ago (2 children)

I feel that I should preface this by warning questioning people that looking for signs is generally not a good way to find out if you're trans. Different people experience being trans in different ways.

Having said that... There were so many signs. Daydreaming about being a girl. Being uncomfortable about being shirtless in public. Feeling a deep admiration for women. Nearly only relating to female characters. Never falling in love for gay men despite being attracted to men.

I remember when I was playing the sims. I made a female character and the game was so much fun. Then after my sim died, I decided to make a male character, and suddenly I lost interest in the game. It was the exact same game, but being a woman just seemed so much more fun... I should've known.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Thank you for that. And you are absolutely right! Questioning people looking for signs is not a good idea because it all comes from within. It is self discovery and not something other people can put on you.

Do you mind if I use your first paragraph as an actual preface in my post? I will of course give you credit.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 7 months ago

Feel free to do that.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I feel that I should preface this by warning questioning people that looking for signs is generally not a good way to find out if you’re trans. Different people experience being trans in different ways.

What is a good way to find out if you're trans?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago

As I see it at least, the one thing that actually matters is finding out if you'd be happier living as a different gender than the one you currently live as.

I put that disclaimer there because I've seen many posts from people saying they think they might be trans, "but I didn't have any childhood signs", "but I don't see myself as [insert gender here]", "but I don't have dysphoria" (very often they do, they just fail to recognize it as such). My sibling in Christ, none of that matters. If you know you'd rather live as a different gender than the one you're living as, just do it.