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For me it's the opposite - I want to learn the minimum needed to accomplish something, and being forced to study is very difficult. At least, that's how my brain sees it.
I want to learn, and would be happy to focus on a drawing class, but the neurodivergent part of my brain sees that as torturous. Being forced to do something that I don't want to do, even if it leads to me doing something that I do want to do, is like nails down a blackboard.
Your description of "being forced to do something" sounds like a distinct situation from a special interest. Special interests are driven by the individual themselves, not forced upon them. I wonder if what you're thinking of might be the phenomenon called PDA ("pathological demand avoidance", or more recently rephrased - more accurately IMO - as "persistent demand for autonomy").
Yes, that's why I said it's the opposite ;)
I don't know what it's called, but I know that I really struggle with doing things that I don't want to do.