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People don't wanna talk about it at all because it's too close to trans-ness being a mental illness but imma come at this from entirely the opposite direction:

The NO.1 predictor of a cluster B personality disorder is a consistently invalidating childhood environment.

What's more invalidating than spending your whole childhood saying "hey I think I'm actually a-" and every single person around you cutting you off right there and saying "no you ain't." Psychiatry ain't shit without social context but psychiatry is also coming to accept that being constantly invalidated as a child gonna do your brain the fucky-wucky.

It's ok to accept that trans ppl are at an increased risk of personality disorders due to our completely fucked societal norms. Accepting that we're at increased risk of mental disorders due to societal bullshit =/= saying being trans is a mental illness. If anything, it's an indictment of the society we live in.

TLDR; trans ppl are at increased risk of mental illness =/= transness IS a mental illness and we still deserve to acknowledge the trauma society done did to us.

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[–] Sunrosa 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (4 children)

It sounds like she doesn't understand herself yet. Don't worry. Everyone finds themselves eventually. I'm not implying that I know more than either you or she does about her. I'm just saying if she's changing her mind lots, that's probably just experimentation. It's healthy. But take her seriously. The experimentation is pointless if others don't take her seriously, because, if so, the moment she settles on something, people are going to treat her differently, and she's going to have to start over again.

When I was young, before I transitioned, I thought I was bisexual, then I thought I was gay, then I thought I was bisexual again, and then I went through a bunch of other stuff. Finally, I realized I was a woman. I still have no idea what my sexuality is. I've dated plenty on both sides, but I'm married to a woman.

Oh, and I'm sure you're wondering, why would I transition to a woman, just so that I can date and marry women? Wouldn't it be better to just be straight? It's a very valid question. A lot of people ask me. And, it's not about sexuality. It's not about who I'm interested in. It's about who I am. And that is completely separate from who I love. The way most see it, gender is one thing, that's who you see yourself as. Sexuality is another thing, it's who you see in others.

Sorry, this post didn't get through because of federation issues. I had sent it 4 hours ago.