Wear the grudge like a crown of negativity
this post was submitted on 19 Oct 2023
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I have a tendency to forget, full stop. I sometimes try to stay mad at someone that's wronged me in some way, but then about an hour later, halfway through a conversation with them, I'll remember I was mad, but at that point I've already been friendly with them so I can't go back to being mad.
Overall, not a terrible trait to have I suppose, but I think it makes it easier for people to take advantage of me sometimes.
Your body is using that as a pathway to forgiveness. It's a wonderful trait. Holding onto stuff brings misery.
Sometimes but it can bring security. “It’s not that i hate you but that you’ve earned my distrust” is an important self defense emotion
Absolutely. I think through my direct experience of forgetting why someone hurt me that my body recalls that for me without the actual details by giving me warning signs via anxiety and worry when someone begins to do similar things. It is less about targeting and obsessing over one person and not being willing to forget and forgive so they can grow and change and more about recognizing the signs and protecting yourself in whatever way you know best.
We are all evolving. Just because the scammer that stole my money when I was a kid doesn't mean that scammer will always be one. I still love them but I don't have to trust them kind of thing. If we cannot allow people to change then will we allow ourselves to change? As Above; So Below or something like that could be said As Without; So Within.