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AITA for not paying for a window my wife broke? (lemmit.online)
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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/brokenwindow454 on 2023-06-22 08:36:45+00:00.

My wife and I work and live together and have identical income. I put half of mine into savings for a house, so money is always tight on my end. We have separate banks and budgets but help each other often. Wife is still practicing saving and currently doesn’t put money aside for saving.

When installing an AC unit in the house we rent, my wife broke a window by practically just touching it. Totally not her fault, just dumb luck and old windows. She’s saying that, since we’re married and a team, I am responsible for half the payment.

While I want to help pay, I do not have the money and I do not see it as my responsibility. Am I the asshole? Should I take money from the house fund and risk our future or let her pay it off?

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[–] apollon 2 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

I can only attest to what I would do in this situation - my girlfriend and I live in a flat that I bought and own while we both save for a house we plan to buy together in the near future. Anything property related (windows, carpets, doors etc..) I purchase myself as it's my property.

However, If we co-owned, co-rented (as you do) or something I would pay for half as we have equal stake in the property, I'd see it the same as if she accidentally broke the fridge or an appliance or something.

So personally, I'd help pay the bill, but I do understand why you feel you shouldn't have to, if it really was just dumb luck and old windows, it could have just as easily been you that broke that window and you'd appreciate the help I'm sure - NAH