So in light of finding out that I can't block an instance as a user, I am trying to find an instance that actually suits me better. Specifically I do not want to see anything relating to lemmygrad.ml and from what I can see, the main instances that block lemmygrad are lemmy.one which isn't accepting new applications and beehaw which, while I don't mind interacting with their instance at all, I don't wish to join it for a couple reasons. There are others like midwest.social but I don't live near there and while I know it is open to people that don't live there it doesn't exactly seem like where I would want to make an account that I plan on actually using.
So if I'm not mistaken, my options are basically to stay on lemmy.ml and deal with having to see posts and comments from lemmygrad.ml users, go to beehaw which I also don't want to do, make a new instance for myself which I'm not going to do, or just leave and come back later when there are actually options that suit me better. Does that sound about right?
May i ask what your reasons for not signing up at beehaw were? I'm still making up my mind. The main reason i went for it (besides one of the owners being very verbal about their philosophy), was that it has some size, which gave me trust that it would not suddenly disappear together with all their user accounts and content. Account migration sadly is missing which is a curious omittance. PM welcome if you so wish.
On Mastodon, there's general agreement that better account migration is vital but it hasn't been prioritized over the last seeral years (although at least you can take followers with you). One of the factor is that the Mastodon dev team also runs the flagship instance, from which a lot of people would migrate it if were probably easier ... so at some level it's not that surprising they haven't prioritized it. We'll see what happens here.
Out of curiosity, what's the beehaw philosophy that they're so open about?
My bad, took the wrong English word. It should be verbose not verbal. I found the approach attractive, to address the issue of people camouflaging hostility as rational discussion, when they are actually following antagonistic believe systems. As from the first "philosophy" post linked from their sidebar:
What is Beehaw?
Beehaw is a Community
A few thoughts on Beehaw’s design
At the time of this writing, though, i have already changed to a different server, because i got it that the place is going to attract a US-of-A style ryrannic PC mob which will exert its own hostility, in their need for a safe space, believing a demand for "niceness" masking -- whatever that means will not be up to discussion -- will do. An echochamber that i will not be part of. The most fun moments on Reddit are often not so very "nice" but rather dirty and snarky. :-)
Thanks very much!