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Not the person that made the joke, butโฆ
Calling her a dishwasher is based on attitudes where women are the homeworkers. I see the joke as taking the piss out of people with that attitude, not the woman herself. We all know that she is a human being with thoughts and feelings like the rest of us and no one ever thought otherwise.
So it's funny because some people with that attitude exist, and therefore you make a joke those people would make? How is that different from saying a racist joke and claiming you're making fun of racists? (non-hostile question)
It subverts the expectation by calling the woman a dishwasher. This is the humour. I don't find it offensive because I assume they're joking, and it's a reasonable assumption because there is a real dishwasher at play while he referred to the woman as a dishwasher, making it quite clear he was simply joking and not serious positing that women belong in the kitchen.
I remember something similar on Reddit where there was a subreddit that made ironic humour about Trump, however it quite quickly turned into a serious subreddit over time because some people took it seriously.
I've seen similar happen with LGBT jokes or misogynistic jokes and they will escalate over time while you also get told you're too uptight and to relax. This also was beginning to happen in 196 on lemmy with trans people.
So? Block and report them. Don't let them control you like that bud.
This happens in online communities all the time, unless I want to block the internet I'm going to have to deal with it. ๐ So I do the next best thing.
I understand I'm not the popular opinion here, but hopefully this helps somewhat.