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How does the great void of death not disturb you? (programming.dev)

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Or does it?

I know we were once nothing, but it is still terrifying and depressing to me to think about returning to this. In fact, as of late, I've been unable to not think about it: the loss of all experience and all memories of everything, forever. All the good times we had, and will have, with anyone or anything ever will totally annihilate into nothingness. All our efforts will amount to nothing because the thoughtless void is ultimately what awaits everything in the end.

The only argument against this would have to be supernatural, like another cause of the Big Bang or somehow proof of reincarnation, but if my consciousness won't exist for me to experience it, then what does it matter either way?

There is no comfort in Hell, either. The anvil of death weighing down, infinitely, on all values and passions is becoming unbearable for me, so I could really use any potentially helpful thoughts about this matter.

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I had forgotten about this phrase, thanks. I had thought "radical acceptance" was just about one's individual, undesirable personality traits or physical appearance, but I apparently haven't read much into this topic! I'd appreciate any resources.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 21 hours ago

https://hopeway.org/blog/radical-acceptance

I don’t endorse this website necessarily but skimming the content this page seems like a solid overview

The classic therapy book is “Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life with the Heart of a Buddha” by Tara brach

But that hints at what it really is: radical acceptance is really co-opting the Buddhist concept of equanimity (upekkha), one of the four sublime states. We have co-opted mindfulness from this as well and made it something a bit removed from its original form

https://www.buddhanet.net/ss06/

“But the kind of equanimity required has to be based on vigilant presence of mind, not on indifferent dullness. It has to be the result of hard, deliberate training, not the casual outcome of a passing mood”

Yet many mindfulness “apps” are the opposite of this, promoting indifference. They miss the point. A takeaway from my post, if nothing else, is that this takes effort and diligence

A similar concept is 不動心 or fudoshin, the “immovable mind” from Japanese martial arts

https://www.amardeep.co/blog/how-to-use-fudoshin-the-right-way-to-be-unstoppable

Although a lot of the writings on this are like this, about endless achievement and goal orientation. This is not without merit of course but because of the association with martial arts you get a lot of “dojo people” writing on how to get to the next level, instead of a focus on inner peace. That may align with your goals though and it certainly has its applications