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Is there an historical reason why female formal dresses have a huge variety of styles compared to male ones where the only acceptable style is jacket with pants? (lemmy.ml)

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[–] [email protected] 31 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

As a man, I wish clothes would make me feel desirable. I have asked my girlfriend which clothes she would like to see me in, but she says it's not about the clothes. That it doesn't matter. It's more about what I do. So I just dress in plain, comfortable, practical clothes which makes me, well, practical. Useful. I often wish I had options to just be desired for my body, without the pressure to achieve this or that to be desirable. It's a source of sadness for me.

[–] greedytacothief 11 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

I mean, looking like you know what you're doing, looking confident doesn't mean you have to dress plain.

Also I am sure gym bros will complement you on your body. Kind of like how as a straight man I only get compliments on my facial hair from other men. Look for validation from your friends not randos

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

Lol no joke, all I get is "nice beard" from other dudes.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

True, I don't have to dress plain, but if clothes make no difference for her, I just wear what I feel most comfortable in. I know how I react when I see her in yoga pants, and I wish I had the option to affect her similarly through clothing.

[–] greedytacothief 1 points 3 weeks ago

Comfort can be about how you look. I have some clothes that are super comfortable, but if I wore them out in public I would be arrested because I look like a drug dealer. Find something comfy in the way that it reflects how you want to be seen

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 weeks ago

I felt like this as well, but it turns out it was gender dysphoria for me all along. Men being completely invisible is one of the hardest parts of being masc.

[–] sneekee_snek_17 2 points 3 weeks ago

I mean, I'm 30 and a non traditional college student. If the weather is agreeable, I have a few nice sweaters that I'll wear with an undershirt, dark jeans, and I've got a pair of Loake boots that are very nice.

I feel GREAT when I dress like that, and get quite a few glances throughout the day. Also my wife eyeballs me as I leave the house.