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People generally assume stay at home parents only choose that if their spouses make a lot of money, that they are bored or unsatisfied with their life, and that it's a job that is very hard and not much fun.
Obviously I don't speak for SAHPs and maybe these things do apply to some, but my life is freakin awesome! We choose to live very simply and frugally on a single below average income and it is completely worth it every single day for us.
I have so much control over my own schedule, I can't get enough of spending time with my kid and have so much fun with them, I have more time for my own interests, self care or friendships when my spouse can take over at times after work, we get fun family time all together almost every day because we don't have to spend all evening cooking and cleaning (plus our schedule is more flexible), and this is the only job where everything I do all day long directly benefits myself and my loved ones (beyond financial support).
There is genuinely nothing in the world I would trade for this. But man do I get tired of the negative comments from nearly everyone who finds out what I do.
My wife is a stay at home parent, she works way harder than I do on a daily basis. Whoever thinks parenting isn’t a full time job clearly has never had kids… or is full of shit if they have had kids.
That's so sweet, I imagine she feels very supported by your words! It's for sure a full time job, but to me personally it doesn't feel like a job most of the time even though I'm super busy. I think it's the "find a job you love and you'll never work a day in your life" thing?😊