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I recently moved to the USA, from the middle east. My English is pretty good, and I don't have a lot of trouble communicating with people at work or in stores. I also don't know anyone here at all, outside of work. All my family is still back in Gaza, and I've been here over a year now, and still feel cut off from American people and culture.

How do you make friends and socialize here? How do I learn more about America and Americans culture? I know a bit about history, but not much about anything else.
I don't drink or go to bars, for religious reasons. I have joined a couple of clubs based on hobbies, but still feel disconnected. I'm not sure how you socialize or meet new people here, in my family everyone came around your house all the times of the day, and here it seems like neighbors just stick to themselves. I don't want to bug people or anoy them if that is not the customs here.

Also, what are your favorite parts of American culture and history? So far I have enjoyed Nascar and monster trucks very much, and studying mathematics.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Neighbors do tend to stick to themselves and socializing here is DIFFICULT. It’s worth it, but it’s hard. Depending on the part if the country your in affects it a lot as well. I met a lot of people when I started going dancing; there was a regular group and the activity itself is social. You could audit a class at a university perhaps. Depending on your age you’ll find a LOT of people willing to study or work together and you can build friendships that way. I would also suggest just going to the neighbors if you’re interested. You could bring some sort of sealed food (in America it tends to be weird to cook for someone when you don’t know them) and invite them to something. It’s hard, but if you ask the people you see regularly to go and do things it’ll work out. If you’re in a club for pickleball then just ask someone if they’d like to play once or twice more a week.

I know I’ve given a little of information, but let me say that a lot of people my age tend to be in your shoes so the whole environment of meeting people is changing. But a lot of them meet people at university. When I meet new people, I usually just chat with them for a few weeks then ask them for help with something and offer to buy them a lunch as payment. Hopefully the lunch goes well and you go from there

[–] FReddit 2 points 1 year ago

The comments about volunteering seem really helpful. Go down to your local animal control center and you will meet some decent people.

Also, Halloween tends to create possibilities. Even if you are just handing out flyers for a local project of some sort.

I gather you are not going to bars, which is a really good idea

[–] Tikiporch 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Try volunteering somewhere, you will likely meet good people that way. Usually you have to be decent to give up your time for the benefit of others. I volunteer at a local clinic and a "soup kitchen", made a lot of friends that way. If you want to be a part of the community you cant go wrong by helping solve the problems of the community. If you're not sure how to get started, check out your local United Way.

[–] Ejh3k 1 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I moved from the Midwest to the east coast after college. I found that the city I was living in didn't like people that weren't originally from there. The only friends I made were other people who didn't grow up there. And some of them were from like 45 minutes away, and they were still not wanted. I was never happier to move back to the Midwest.

So, maybe where you live just isn't receptive to newcomers?

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Learn jiu-jitsu or judo, you get to know everybody.

[–] RBWells 1 points 1 year ago

Are you in a city? The suburbs? A small town? Do you work with other people? Go to church or temple or mosque? To college?

As an adult I have made friends from work, from yoga, and oddly enough, Pokemon go. Not counting the friends who were parents of my kids' friends since that probably doesn't apply to your situation. But I am in a mid-sized city with a large contingent of people who were not born here. So many different people from different places.

Also if/when you get a girlfriend (or boyfriend, whatever applies) they may come with some built-in friends and family, will help expand your circle.

[–] ohlaph 1 points 1 year ago

Work, groups, going to social events, etc.

[–] [email protected] -1 points 1 year ago

Two words: Palestinian Chicken.

[–] [email protected] -3 points 1 year ago

That’s the cool part. You don’t! ;)

[–] Treczoks -4 points 1 year ago (4 children)

New to America USA, how do you socialize and meet new people?

Carefully. Very carefully. They have guns and like to use them. Especially on people they don't know, don't like, who look strange, or who have an accent.

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