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[–] Hikermick 84 points 2 days ago (2 children)

How about the notion that one can afford to live in NYC while working at a coffee shop with only one roommate

[–] [email protected] 74 points 2 days ago (3 children)

The apartment was rent controlled, and legally leased by Monica's dead grandmother. Monica was committing fraud.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 day ago (1 children)

But Joey and Chandler could afford to live across the hall from them which was never explained.

[–] alekwithak 24 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (4 children)

sigh

Chandler had a good job, working in data science, which was still mysterious and paid well in the 90s. And Joey likely got unemployment between acting jobs.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

If they lived across the hall then why is breakfast together implausible? 😭 What is happening??

[–] Maggoty 8 points 1 day ago

Because most people are barely getting dressed and out the door in time.

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Hey - I don't like the tone I used to read that comment young man. Fuck them landlords.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 2 days ago

Fuck it. I'm getting radicalized. It should only be legal to own one property at a time!

[–] Agent641 7 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Admirable hustle

[–] jaggedrobotpubes 21 points 2 days ago (1 children)

That's not an absurdity, and if it looks like one then it's the world that's wrong.

[–] Maggoty 10 points 1 day ago

That's part of the point.

[–] [email protected] 175 points 2 days ago (4 children)

The sizes of apartments on TV were also a blatant lie.

[–] egrets 78 points 2 days ago (1 children)

On the plus side, my apartment has four walls and they meet the ceiling.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 2 days ago

What about the floor? Do the walls reach the floor? Do you even have a floor?

[–] bahbah23 39 points 2 days ago (2 children)

The size of Monica's apartment was mentioned in the show. It was her grandma's apartment and under rent control; the apartment building didn't know that it wasn't the Grandma anymore. With that, it wasn't unreasonable for her to be able to afford it during the 90s

[–] [email protected] 90 points 2 days ago

Wow even in a 90's TV show they had to commit fraud to have affordable housing

[–] [email protected] 36 points 2 days ago (2 children)

man it sounds like rent control might be kinda nice? maybe we shou- BANG BANG BANG BANG oh how unfortunate, this commenter seems to have suddenly decided to kill themselves..

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[–] Maggoty 15 points 1 day ago

It's totally possible, as long as everyone get up super fucking early.

[–] [email protected] 107 points 2 days ago (9 children)

Also that a group of underemployed 20-somethings can afford huge, well-furnished apartments in Manhattan.

[–] [email protected] 66 points 2 days ago (4 children)

I believe in Friends, it's justified as Monika pretending that her grandmother is living there so she still gets her rent controlled tenancy agreement. I thought I remembered that there was an episode where she and the custodian were having a fight so he threatened to reveal the grandma isn't alive anymore so that Monika would have renegotiate the agreement (and it was resolved so he didn't do that.)

As for Joey and Chandler's apartment, no clue how that one happened lol

[–] NOT_RICK 61 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

You’re recalling correctly. Joey has to agree to be the building manager’s dance partner in order to keep him from snitching. My wife watches Friends on repeat so it’s burned into my memory from proximity.

As for Joey and Chandler, Chandler has a well paying job that nobody can quite explain as a running gag. He’s not a “transpondster”, at a minimum.

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[–] [email protected] 39 points 2 days ago (1 children)

IIRC Chandler was the only one with a substantial job. He worked in IT and then as a data scientist. There was a running joke that he couldn't explain his job in a way that his dense friends could understand.

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[–] [email protected] 65 points 2 days ago (3 children)

The biggest lie tv told me was how much quicksand would feature in my life.

[–] [email protected] 30 points 2 days ago (1 children)

That, and the Bermuda triangle.

[–] [email protected] 23 points 2 days ago (3 children)

I can't believe we're ignoring the danger posed by the Bermuda Triangle

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[–] [email protected] 25 points 2 days ago (1 children)

And the lie of someone getting knocked on the head and passing out for an hour. If you're unconscious for that long after a head injury, then you're not going to wake up again.

[–] Agent641 12 points 1 day ago (1 children)

This is such a dangerous lie.

While it's never happened in my presence, I can envision someone seeing some else get knocked out and going "Ah, they'll wake up in an hour or so." And not phoning an ambulance.

And the whole trope where one good guy knocks out another good guy to prevent themselves in harm's way. Like, my brother in Christ, you probably just killed them.

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[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 day ago

My social batteries would be drained before leaving the house :D

[–] [email protected] 79 points 2 days ago (4 children)

They lived across the hall from each other. It actually made sense in this case.

[–] MeatPilot 36 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (4 children)

Good point. But, I don't even have breakfast with people in my own house. Just don't have time and different schedules.

Would have to be "perfectly" aligned with one another to pull this off in different apartments.

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[–] [email protected] 45 points 2 days ago

We did this in college when we all lived in the same apartment complex. It's was a whole thing where whoever had the latest class would cook eggs every Monday and Thursday morning, and it lasted an entire year before it fell apart due to various commitment issues.

[–] [email protected] 94 points 2 days ago (2 children)

You guys have breakfast?

I'll rather get my full 4 hours of sleep instead.

[–] [email protected] 35 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

4 full hours of sleep and you only skip one meal?! Look at this guy living the life over there.

[–] RedditWanderer 15 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

You guys are sleeping every day?

[–] [email protected] 33 points 2 days ago (2 children)

I'd argue there's not a single relatable thing in any of these sitcoms and the moment they stopped pretending to be and were about us watching the misery of four of five rich yuppies suffer, sitcoms had a resurgence.

Seinfeld went this way after Larry David departed, but Arrested Development was the first.

[–] Sixner 23 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I had this realization recently. I don't watch much tv anyways, but whenever someone recommend a show to me it's just rich people doing rich people things.

I guess it's a nice dream to have? I just can't unsee it now.

Bob's burgers is a decent alternative, struggling restaurant and kids playing with garbage most the time.

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[–] [email protected] 31 points 2 days ago

An apartment the size of a barn in the East Village at that.

[–] [email protected] 30 points 2 days ago (4 children)

I never have breakfast. The Kelloggs company lied when they said it's the most important meal of the day.

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[–] [email protected] 25 points 2 days ago

It’s really hard to shoot six people eating in their cars during their commute to work.

[–] [email protected] 22 points 2 days ago (1 children)

It wasn't that much of a lie for Gen-X in tech. In the company I was with in Austin, we use to have a breakfast (from taco trucks or delivered). Employee significant others were welcome to join. You might think that it doesn't count because they were co-workers, but we were also close friends. All around the same age, working together, gaming together, partying together, etc. Even after we switched jobs, a lot of us continued to meet up for breakfast, and I am still close friends with most.

[–] [email protected] 28 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

Breakfast at work is one thing, breakfast before work is a whole nother level of time commitment. I'm pretty sure I started skipping breakfast around the time I started working a 9-5

[–] [email protected] 13 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Driving over to your friend's place to have breakfast before work is just insane!

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[–] latenightnoir 16 points 2 days ago

We used to do this during Uni while living in the dorm, because we were penniless more frequently than not and had figured out that we could pool our leftovers together for a feast. And not just for breakfast, we'd also pool together for lunch and dinner - I still have a soft spot for spaghetti with no sauce and hot dogs. It was a tight-knit group and we usually had a lot of mornings together, as this was our main drinking group as well. We'd just crash wherever we landed first and that was that.

Coffee was usually the main issue, though, but thank fuck for those single-cup solubles!

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