Ask Lemmy

Break up!

Grab a brush and put a little make up!

"Guys I just hooked up my new set of 5.1 speakers and I'm getting a little buzzing in the subwoofer I can't track down, what do I do?"

"You should break up, he's totally cheating on you."

Some people may be thinking of what’s called the “benefits cliff”. At certain points you lose the ability to take certain tax credits or deductions. Theoretically this could result in a higher net out of pocket for you, but in the grand scheme it’s really minor, so always take the raise.

For anyone here who doesn't understand why this is bad advice, it's because income tax increases only apply to income made above that threshold.

Let's do a simple example and pretend there's only 2 tax brackets. From 0-50k tax is 10% and over 50k it's 20%.

If you make exactly 50k your tax burden will be 5k and you'll take home 45k a year.

If you get a 1k raise, only the final thousand is taxed at the higher rate, so your tax burden will be 5200 (10% of the first 50k and 20% of the remainder), and you'll take home 45,800 a year.

So even though you change tax brackets, you still make more money.

I'd say about 20% of people I encounter, including people in my immediate family, still believe this.

My uncle believes this and has made life decisions based on it ... but has a financial advisor. So either that advisor sucks or he hasn't actually discussed finances with them.

The same people who think they pay federal tax dollars cause they never realize they get it all back and then some.

Karma in the west is grossly misunderstood anyway. pisses me off

Being stuck because of worrying and overthinking is not a good place. Calls to action are the only way to improve the situation.

You know who take this advice too seriously? Assholes.

You still need to follow your society's expected behaviors. Like showering or wearing shoes in public venues.

A big problem is people not picking up certain queues and being ostracized then continuing to follow "be yourself." It's a downward spiral.

1. Learn to fit in
2. Learn when and where "rules" can be bent/broken
3. Then be yourself

All one liner advice is a shortening of a much more complex idea and people rarely pass along the complexity. I think you nailed the goal of the saying, that fitting in shouldn't require losing their individuality.

Sadly some people use the saying to justify being an asshole, because they don't understand that they can be a decent person and still be themselves.

The retort to that is, “be yourself, unless you’re and arsehole, then be someone else”

This also depends on the society you are living in. Good luck with "being yourself" in north korea, or even any east asian countries.

I can't imagine any relationship working without some degree of compromise. But as to the other part of your comment, I've found The One several times in my life. They were right at the time, there was a deep connection, and later, things changed. But it was real and I don't regret a minute of any of those times.

"God will bring the right person into your life"

I know someone who believes this so strongly that they don't even really go out or date or anything. They legit believe that somehow their soulmate, chosen by God, will show up at their doorstep while they sit at home every night watching TV? I don't understand.

I guess maybe if it's the pizza delivery guy or something...

a good marriage drastically improves your life. a bad marriage will obliterate it.

Listen to your body as in observe your body and how it responds to activity, certain foods, medications and environments. That's good advice. There are many bad doctors out there.

Listening to the body is a rule of thumb. If you feel bad after eating/drinking something it's probably not good for you. If you cough from something in the air it's not healthy to inhale.

It's especially true in high octane workout culture like cross-fit, if it hurts then don't continue, this is how you end up with a herniated disc.

That being said, if you're on heroin you shouldn't listen to the body. Same with cigarettes, junk food, sugary drinks, candy etc. because the body is a dopamine whore.

Listen to your body, assess how its feedback comports with your goals, then use your brain to decide what to do.