“If you were to tell a stranger, or post our scenario online on a mommy group or something, I am sure people would assume there is something wrong … but they don’t know the full story,” she said.
I’ve never had to do that.
I think the idea is fine, sometimes I’ll sleep the couch if I’m restless or my wife has pulled an alligator and clung to the blankets and rolled them away.
Sleep divorce is a terrible terrible name though.
or my wife has pulled an alligator and clung to the blankets and rolled them away.
Pro Tip: have your own bedding separate from your partner's. My wife and I are both bedding gators, so we went this route less than a year into living together, and it has worked phenomenally for a decade and a half.
We have a duvet and sheets one size larger than our mattress for that reason.
It works 95% of the time
"Sleep divorce"? Screw that stupid destructive name. Many happy couples out there a sleeping separately.
Because you get a better sleep not sharing a bed.
2 duvets dude
My wife snores loud enough to wake the dead, and I'm a light sleeper. It was separate rooms or just not together. It's fine though, a none issue. Except on holiday, I've slept in the bath before now!
My wife had that... undiagnosed sleep apnea is hugely dangerous. You should convince her to do a sleep study.
As far as I'm aware she sleeps soundly, never really complaining about being overly tired. Do you think it could still be sleep apnea. She's a nurse so probably won't listen to me lol.
Yeah, apnea doesn't always manifest with obviously disturbed sleep and tiredness. But the sleep disturbances are usually there under the surface, and the problems it causes are still going to occur. Get on top of it early, no big deal let it keep going for decades, and you can run into the serious stuff
I mean, the snoring alone generally indicates sleep apnea.
When I convinced my wife to go in they told her that if you stop breathing 30 times or more an hour, that's severe sleep apnea...
Her breathing stopped more than 100 times an hour(!)
What convinced her to go was I recorded her one night.
She has a CPAP now and refuses to sleep without it.
My partner got soooo mad when I finally recorded her. She wouldn't believe me.
Then she dove straight in with the studies and cpap and eventually a surgery to trim her uvula. Took a bit to convince her that I do not record her sleeping for funsies. All is well that ends well, I suppose.
My snores can wake up a whole neighborhood. And I fall asleep faster than her so we opted for separate bedrooms.