This looks likes somebody in denial, rationalising their feelings
this post was submitted on 31 May 2024
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anon was almost fine till the slut shaming bit. it’s totally valid to have boundaries around smoking and alcohol, especially underage where those are significantly notable red flags.
even rationalizing one’s feelings is a pretty healthy thing to do. far better to acknowledge that the pretty girl had flaws than to pedastal her and pine after an idealized version of her for the rest of his life because that’s just a recipe for depression and self hate.
that said, her sexual history was none of anon’s business, and the fact that he doesn’t even seem sure about it while being willing to judge her character over it speaks volumes.
i hope anon is doing alright and has learned confidence in himself. also hope his relationship with women’s sexuality can improve cuz yikes.
possible slut
Oh no, I could've gotten laid! 😭
and herein lies the inherent contradiction of misogynistic objectification 😞😞
woman who sleep with men are sluts. women who won’t sleep with me? also sluts.
I mean someone can still sleep with a lot of people even when it doesn't include you. So it's not necessarily contradictory
Some just find the idea of their partner having had a lot of other partners unappealing. I get it, it's a really common thing. I'm sure some of it is sexism but having a ton of previous partners isn't very appealing to a lot of women either. Plenty of jokes about someone having so many diseases that their dick falls off lol
It's okay to not find it appealing but it's still not okay to call someone a slut because you feel like they had too many sexual partners. It's easy as that ¯_(ツ)_/¯
I didn't mean to imply calling someone a slut was okay, just that thinking someone is a slut is just an "ick" thing for many.
They are not slut. There's no reason to think of someone like that. Having more sexual partners than you are being comfortable with doesn't make someone a slut.
It's sorta what the word means
I'd argue that the word means that you care more about having "fun" than having "virtue", but as long as noone is getting hurt, I see nothing wrong with that. Life is short.
I wasn't trying to be judgemental, just saying what people mean with the word
Understood
Yeah, those grapes probably have herpes anyway.
perhaps, but he's right that more likely than not it wouldn't have ended well. Dating is pain and the idea of romance is always nicer in your head.
Personal growth usually involves pain, but that's not a good reason to avoid it. Sounds like OP missed out.
attempting to date has only given me pain and misery, trying to court people who turned out to be shitty human beings didn't make me "grow", it just made me feel unwanted and worthless.
I mean, if masochism's your thing, who am I to judge?¯\_(ツ)_/¯