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Is it how they talk on those apps? Sure.
Is it how a lot of men just talk outright? Yeah, and it's insane. The messages my partner (cis) and I (trans) have gotten on Instagram even are so out of pocket.
I'll gladly accept the lack of understanding of boundaries, because it makes the red flags obvious from the start.
I'll add that it's very, very nice to see a rational, "respectful" reaction to being told they are trans though. Too many men who jump to invalidating gender and outright transphobia out there. Especially the ones who are only afraid of being seen as gay.
It probably is the same rationale as with clickbait. It at least gets a response XD
The messages from gay guys are pretty similar sometimes.