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I'll give it a shot, "I thought I apologized already, but whatever…"

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[–] [email protected] 45 points 1 year ago (4 children)

🚫 Conditional apologies:

  • "I'm sorry if..."
  • "I'm sorry but..."
  • "I'm sorry for [not the main thing you should be apologizing for]..."

🚫 Apologizing on behalf of the recipient:

  • "I'm sorry you feel that way"
  • "I'm sorry you came to that conclusion"

🚫 Insulting the intelligence of the recipient by way of apology:

  • "I'm sorry for not being more clear"
  • "I'm sorry about being so misleading"

🚫 Non-apologies:

  • "I apologize for..."
  • "It's regrettable that..."
  • "It was terrible to..."

When in doubt, keep it simple. Get the main apology out ASAP, then carefully start saying your piece afterward. Focus on yourself if the situation demands explaining yourself (many don't). Be extremely careful to speak only constructively about other individuals during the apology (if you can't say something nice...).

For example: "I'm sorry. I didn't mean it like that. Is there anything I can do to make it up to you?"

[–] [email protected] 38 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (3 children)

🚫 Insulting the intelligence of the recipient by way of apology:

  • "I'm sorry for not being more clear"
  • "I'm sorry about being so misleading"

How are those insulting? Saying that I should have been more clear means I am the one who messed up by not communicating properly. Something like "sorry that you misunderstood" would be insulting since it places the blame on the recipient's intelligence.

[–] baronofclubs 10 points 1 year ago

I'm sorry for not being more clear about how the dishes should be done.

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