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Hello fellow lemmy's , A bit of back story. I'm currently stuck with a decision and don't know what way to take it , I've moved back to my home city a month ago to be close to family and friends after a 3 year relationship ended, now that I've settled in I'm starting to regret the choice in moving , my job is based back where I moved from and friends have offered me place to stay until I get on my feet.

There is a lot I miss about where I lived and finding it difficult to see a future here, would you guys stay and ride out the feeling or go with your gut ?

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

This is good advice. Not enough detail in the post and, regardless, you’re going to need to analyze your own situation because we’re probably never going to get all the nuance, even if you write us a novel.

One thing to add: you just lost a relationship and are probably going to be unhappy and grieving that regardless of where you live. If you had stayed, you’d be having the same feelings of not knowing where you want to be and feeling lost… you probably even jumped to moving back home because you made a rash decision thinking “I’m unhappy here, so here must be the problem.”

OP, the way you’re feeling is normal. You need time to grieve the relationship and figure out what makes you happy once you have a bit of distance from that situation.