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I bought a bra. Help! (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
submitted 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
 

Um. So. I've been wearing a lot of tight sweaters recently and starting to show a bit too much nipple, so I bought some bras. Why just now? I guess I felt I didn't really "deserve" one, or I'd be "dressing up", or something, and wanted to wait for a good reason. Or two :3

Anyway, it's super comfortable, the padding really helps with sensitivity, and I looove what it does for my silhouette. BUT. I've been dressing somewhat androgynous up till now to give my hair / face time to catch up, and to me at least this is a big step into "this person is obviously dressing fem (wearing a bra)" territory. Which is kind of scary.

I'm not really sure what I'm asking here, sorry. I like presenting fem; I want to be perceived as fem; but I guess I'm kind of scared I look like a man in drag? Is anybody actually going to notice?

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[โ€“] WoodScientist 13 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

If you're trying to hide it, be careful with fabrics you wear, some will show straps and other things. Though if you want to hide it, you might be better off with a sports bra. But really, layers are your friend. Maybe consider an undershirt or wear a jacket/hoodie. But also keep in mind that if you notice a change in silhouette, others may as well. But anyway, congrats on the milestone.

[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 3 days ago

Thanks, that makes sense.