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What does masturbating or having sex physically feel like to you guys? (self.asklemmy)

submitted 1 month ago by dingus to c/asklemmy

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I'm in my early 30's and I've literally always been curious about this. I've never in my life had the ability to feel sexual pleasure. I've never been on any meds or had any sort of traumatic experiences...it's just the way I've always been even if I try. I'm old enough to say that I'm way beyond simply being a "late bloomer". It's just something I'll never experience.

But it often feels like I'm missing a minor sense like taste or smell or something. Everyone has always raved about the taste of dessert, but I've never been able to understand or experience it. Can you describe it in detail it for me? Not just the mental part, but the physical part as well?

Thank you.

Sincerely, An Outsider

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[–] vinnymac 3 points 1 month ago (8 children)

It’s like a thrilling sport where your team has a chance to win if you picked the right players. At the end of the game everyone may have received a healthy dose of endorphins, increased blood flow, and a feeling of elation.

Everyone has their own experiences, and gets something different out of it, but some things always remain the same.

[–] dingus 4 points 1 month ago (7 children)

Is there an alternative way that I can get the endorphins and elation despite not having the physical sensation? It has always been a goal of mine to feel that despite not being a human like the rest of you.

[–] marron12 2 points 1 month ago

Live music does it for me. It's best when I'm close enough to make eye contact with the musicians, and when the audience is into it too. It's a total rush. If I had to pick between music and sex, it'd be music, hands down.

I can relate to the comment about swimming too. I imagine hiking, kayaking, or anything else physical that you really like could give you a similar feeling.

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