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I've been absent from work for over 2 months and no one ever contacted me. (self.goodoffmychest)

submitted 2 days ago by Kyrgizion to c/goodoffmychest

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Last september everything came to a head and due to my failing mental health I tried to commit. It failed and I've been off work ever since.

Next June will be my 10 year anniversary with this company. I thought I was, well, not "liked" but at least somewhere above just "tolerated".

Well, that's one fantasy out if this world.

I probably will be fired because of my prolonged absence. I used to dread that option, but now I welcome it.

For a decade I felt unheard & unseen and when I spoke up about it, people convinced me it was all just in my head.

But it isn't. I really am as loathed as I feared I would be.

Then again, I loathe myself most of all, so I "understand" the situation.

I wouldn't reach out either if the roles were reversed.

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 days ago (4 children)

Are they still paying you?

[–] Kyrgizion 13 points 2 days ago (2 children)

No, once you're medically absent for a month, you get 60% of your wage from the govt. You can be fired at any time once this threshold is passed and they don't have to pay severance since it's considered "quitting".

My car and health insurance also depend on my employment. Losing those will diminish my chances of either some recovery or finding another job since I live in the middle of nowhere with terrible public transportation infrastructure.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 days ago

Sounds like they might be waiting for you to contact them so they can either ask you back in, or fire you. I wouldn't assume it's one or the other.

I had a job that ghosted for weeks, and they still wanted me back. You never know.

Definitely look for other work though.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

They can fire you at any time after a month of sickness without paying severance? Do you live in South Africa or something? My word...

[–] Coreidan 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Sounds like the US to me. Does hearing this surprise you? It shouldn’t. Workers have very little rights in the US and employers are known to exploit the shit out of it. Same as it ever was.

Edit: I take that back. It can’t be the US because no way in hell they’d keep you on staff for an entire month of no show.

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