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As I inch closer to 30, it’s hard not to feel the weight of this unspoken expectation that by now, I should have it all sorted out—career on track, relationships settled, finances stable, basically the full package.

But I can't help but wonder, is this just an unrealistic societal pressure we’ve all absorbed, or is there some truth to it?

When I talk to my friends, it’s clear we’re all over the map. Some are married with kids, while others are still figuring out what they even want to do with their lives.

It makes me question if these timelines we think we’re supposed to follow really make sense.

Do you feel this pressure too? And for those who’ve crossed the 30-mark, did things actually start falling into place, or is this whole idea of “having it together” by 30 just a myth?

I’d love to hear how everyone else is navigating this stage of life.

Seeing the discussion about this get censored heavily was enlightening. The modlog had some of the best comments.

Imane Khelif is an intersex man that has the advantage of male puberty because he has XY chromosomes. He, like many intersex men, was born with ambiguous genitalia that looked like a vulva (but almost certainly didn't have an actual female reproductive system). He was AFAB in the correct sense of the term, but is relying on incorrect paperwork to compete in women's boxing.

Lemmy should be horrified at a dude punching women, not providing a smokescreen by saying "But Russia!". The IBA had the tests done by independent labs that confirmed he is male, possibly with a DSD. They're corrupt, but not in any way that affects this. If Khelif wants to prove them wrong and ensure that nobody ever believes the IBA ever again, he can get a simple cheek swab and show the world.

Sex is not hard. XY is male, XX is female. If something goes wrong with that, then you're intersex. Leave women's sports to women (XX). Intersex people can compete in men's sports. Anything else is going to push women out of sports completely, because they have a biological disadvantage against men. If the Olympics doesn't re-institute sex testing, we're going to end up with "Men's" and "Men with DSD" divisions.

For the record I am a chick and i do not have fake tits

No offense to dudes here either bc yes they're allowed a preference.

But it's just been the majority opinion amongst guys I've asked this to, that fake boobs are unattractive and real ones are much sexier.

Did you catch that?

They've said they are unattractive.

To me, that just feels like an exaggerated kind of shitty out of touch response. Especially being that most guys watch pornography where most of the women have fake tits. I'll even go out on a limb here and say MOST women who do porn, HAVE FAKE TITS.

So how the fuck can you say that?

The argument is that they look fake and feel fake. Ok, I can understand that point of view. But listen, it's 2024 I know cosmetic surgery has advanced to limit that. Especially if you get a great doctor. Are there any women here who have fake boobs that have been indistinguishable for a guy to tell the difference?

For me, it's about the aesthetic. Fake boobs (not basketball ones) just look nicer. Simetrical, they make your body look sexier even and your clothes look nicer and your arms look smaller. More arousing in my opinion.

I would prefer to have bigger fake boobs then my current natural ones for those reasons. My current boobs are nice yea, but I just want them bigger. A cup size or two.

Anyway this post isn't about me and my boobs. I just don't get that viewpoint on it. I feel like it's contradictory.

Lastly,

I've even heard a few say that women with fake ones are jealous of women with big real ones, bc even they know most men prefer real over fake and that is why they're jealous.

Overall the whole thing is fucking stupid. Tits are tits even if they're fake. I don't get the hate.

Clothes, phone cases things like that ?

Something I was experimenting with, making a list or "inventory" of all the "stuff" (physical or non-physical / digital) in your life, in order to make better use of it

Some "stuff" has been haphazardly acquired in my life, as gifts or things I've gotten without a plan on how to use them, or digital files I'll get to "one day"... having a list of these things makes it easier to actively manage them (get rid of unused / unwanted stuff, make more regular use of things I have that I may not use much that I want to use, etc.)

Anyone gained any insights from making an inventory of "stuff" in their lives?

Not framing this in a "You're a piece shit bc of x y z" type of way. So hopefully yall don't take offense.

Asking out of curiosity because pretty much the entire human race lives on their phones and we need internet now.

Thoughts ?

I came up with some ideas for subforums. I just created a subforum in my instance called "Made in Poland". The idea is to share polish both big and small local businesses so that polish people who are more conscious of the need of supporting their own economic environment this way have a nice source of data.

I thought that this subforum could also be helpful for non polish people, like tourists that might want to buy local stuff when they visit. And in turn I thought about another forum for people who maybe would want to know about my country. Havent yet made it but it would be a forum where people post things about Poland that every visitor, every person interseted in our country should know. Probably only good stuff (XD I mean every country has their dark side, but maybe thats for a even different subforum XD) that we are most proud of, you know. Like best places to see, best food to eat, events and so on.

And I thought that maybe you might wanted to do something analogous but for USA (I assume that's HC's country of origin, unless your aiming at being an international instance, but that still doesnt exclude possibility I talking about )? So you could similarly do subforum called "Made in USA" and "Best of USA" or something like that for people that are not from US. I'm not sure if this would be practical given the fact how enormous your country is but maybe? So maybe don't include companies like Apple or Google which I think everyone knows are from US and I'm not sure if nowadays these companies are best examples of companies to be proud of (saying that and I'm still using google products every day xd). And also best of "USA" would be place to show what you are most proud of about your country, best places to see etc for non US people to know when they visit or just want to know. Maybe in your case it would be better to create more fragmented subforums? Idk

Just food for thought

EDIT: I removed part about covering news by each instance. Not sure if it makes sense. At least for you I mean. Plenty of sources to find on the web I guess. In our case though its different cause only polish know polish so maybe that's something to think about.

I haven't read everything yet. But, in my opinion WFH sorry about it, but it shouldn't be the standard.

It's a luxury really.

I'd say what really annoys the fuck out of me about the WFH topic.

Is HELLO ! NOT EVERYONE CAN WORK FROM HOME DUMB FUCK ! NOT EVER FUCKING INDUSTRY IS LIKE THIS, YOU LITERALLY HAVE TO BE THERE IN PERSON TO DO YOUR JOB.

People on oil rigs, truckers, warehouse workers, fast food and retail people and many other industries can't have this option because you literally have to be at your job in person.

There's no oil rig at your house. You can't long haul pipe from Illinois to Connecticut sitting on your ass in your living room.

I just want to punch someone this makes me so annoyed. I've worked both blue collar and white collar jobs.

Work is work and I feel this constant bitching about wanting to work from home, is gunna create some weird sub group in the work force.

Listen.

You work in an office with AC and all that good stuff. I don't want to hear you bitch and complain that you can't work from home in your pajamas. While blue collar workers have to do physical labor in all weather conditions.

You already have it good working in an office.

Seriously Shut the fuck up

Hey guys what's up thanks for the concern I'm still here. I've just got something going on on my end that's not going to get situated until the 15th of this month. So you'll be hearing a lot more from me then in the meantime just feel free to have fun and post funny s*** and have a good time

For me, it's excitement then anger and frustration.

It is overwhelming at times.

I always take phone breaks.

They do help.

I'm just wondering how others feel.

I LOVE that they have an app. But for fucks sake, it's like all there is there is fucking memes man. I mean dang.

Do you troll?